Vh65, your marriage is a black swan. Weirdly, one of the best sexes I ever had was with a lesbian who felt remorse and as though she had betrayed her fellow lesbians. If you can put yourself in his shoes, you would understand that, first of all, he is barraged by hungry patients all wanting answers and a piece of him.



II do wish you luck. She will be surprised that a non-Mormon holds the same values she does and respect you. Distance is hard, being away from family is tough, but in a way having only "each other" made our marriage so strong. I think love and caring can be more important. I am a non-Mormon woman married to a Mormon manвwhich seems to be a less common scenario in the LDS world. The misogyny is deep in the Mormon church. And faith and trust. I completely agree with you. We still joke about the latter. No where did I say, nor I think indicate, that I thought this wasn't a complex issue, or that this girl is a caricature.
For now, again, don't expect a decade long relationship. That being sais, just be honest. But, if ever were there were a time to be overly cautious it's with this topic. I think doctors have a different perspective of death and loss, because they deal with it so much. The odds are definitely not in OPs favor for something like this working for him.
Move on, but after thanksgiving. I have been reading this blog for a while now but this is the first time I have felt I needed to add my two cents in. Somehow I never believed any of that; I wanted a career and a small family and never believed religion was a way to identify good character. I recall reading a talk from Elder Nelson in which he indicated that the church teaches general principles and does not spend time teaching exceptions to general principles. And yet when retirement comes up in the conversation, its a definite "not while I have the skills "- 75 maybe. Which even the kind ones are. She may never join the join the church. All you care about is the paycheck. The important part of finding a partner to marry does not, in my opinion, revolve around whether or not you are of the same religion. Females are not expected to serve and MOST of the girls that do, only do so because they do not have a suitable read: If your GF is an attractive girl and still ended up on a mission then she is about as fanatical as they come and if she isn't already she will be slowly trying to convert you.